Friday, December 7, 2012

My Doctor Doesn't Know Who I Am

Beware.... this post is a rant.  ;)

A lot has happened in the last couple months.   We went to CA for my best friends' wedding, we bought and moved into our first home, and in the meantime my pain from this pregnancy increased more and more to the point where I had to basically put myself on "bed rest".

My doctor doesn't even know my name.   I have gone to her for 5 years and she still has no clue who I am every time I am in there.  I tell her about my pain (and also about my near-fainting spells!) every time I'm in there and she hands me the same pamphlet on *back pain* (which is so NOT the problem) every time. I didn't think I would care so much with my second pregnancy but I should have switch Doctors in the beginning.  I was thinking that since this was my second pregnancy I wasn't going to have as many questions and I wasn't really going to need much advice from my Dr this time around so I didn't think it was all that important. Unfortunately I was wrong... there are different problems with this pregnancy than with my previous one (and I know, every pregnancy is different).  It is very frustrating to be in this much pain and not have a Doctor that cares or even shows any indication of knowing what is wrong.

Exercises don't help the pelvic pain (in fact several of them make it worse), I can only walk for about 20 minutes before the pain becomes too much to bare, and trying to do any sort of maneuvering to stand up from sitting or laying down is nearly impossible.  I can't lift my legs on my own so getting dressed is one of the worst parts of my day.   I know there is nothing the Dr can do other than send me to a physical therapist (which would be a waste of time and money) but I want a Dr that at least knows me and knows what is causing the problem.

I know what the problem is but it would be good to hear it from her to show me that she actually knows something.

I'll be switching to a midwife as soon as possible.  I really hope that things get better from here on out.

Until this baby is born I will be sitting on the couch every day.  In the mornings I can usually walk around for a little longer than 20 minutes so I try to get as much cleaning/housework done during that time as possible  Laundry is totally out though... that is all up to Gage now.   I can fold clothes.  That's about it.

Just three more months! It sounds like an eternity but I know that February will come... eventually.


  1. That's not cool. Sounds like you need a new doctor! Sucks you are having such a hard pregnancy. Are you just planning on the two kids then?

  2. I think we will just have two kids. I really wanted more than two but going through this again with two kids to take care of... I don't know how that would even be possible! We'll see. The thing is, it is a lot of pain and everything is very challenging but it's all temporary. 9 months is a long time.. but it does end. I just have to get through it and the result is SO worth all the pain! I can't absolutely say we'll only have two kids but...I think at least for the next 3-4 years. We'll see.. :)


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